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August 29, 2010
Having a bad day?
Did something bad happen to you? Someone hurt your feelings, offend you and made you feel vulnerable? Please do me a favor, get out of the past and back to the present. You might not realize it right away, but there is good news around the corner: the future is still under construction!
You now have two options: you can think of yourself as “poor-me”, reflect on how badly you were treated and focus on a brilliant revenge, or you can take what happened as a valuable learning lesson and that will bring you a giant step further to an independent, self-confident you.
Anger is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
- Malachy McCourt
How can a painful situation be a learning lesson? Good question. By asking ourselves things like: “Who is angry now – is it me or my ego?” and “Why didn’t I see the warning signs?” or “What can I do to limit the damage?” The answers to these questions will help you find the reason behind and that will prevent similar situations to happen in the future. And since it’s impossible to change the past anyway, we may as well get rid of our regrets, turn toward the future and make it a positive one.
Are you dwelling in the past right now? Don’t! Looking ahead is much, much more interesting anyway.
